December 2010
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Do you like guys with facial hair?
*Looks around suspiciously* Is this a trick question? Um yes, I do. <clears throat> Only Teh Domliest Dominates can carry the One Twue G0atee of WizDOM, Smartness and Teh Awesome.
(it is funny: 2 years ago I went through a serious lack of interest in men with facial hair. And lo it came to pass MOST of the guys with whom I’ve recently played are of the fuzzface. My luck)
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What will you be doing for New Year?
I will be doing a pony play demonstration for the Fetish People Party in Gothenberg, Sweden under the able tutelage of the lovely Rebecca Wilcox.
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I am a firm believer in using the word "Cunt"....
It is a very visceral word for me, though it isn’t necessarily a negative connotation. The British Musician was the first person to ever use it is a sexual context, and since they have a much lighter take on the word than we do in the US, I don’t think he realize,d until I advised him, how impactful it was for me. In the context of sex, it becomes humiliating if I am referred to as...
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What was the best or your favorite gift that you...
A new friend gave me a lovely little charm of a horse, which I simply adore. But the bes gift I think was being safe, warm, well-fed and sober for another day.
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Have you experienced heartbreak?
Well I thought I had. Until I recently realized I’m neither broken nor breakable. Then I looked back on all of the times I might have said “My heart was broken.” and I can now say “My attachment to an outcome was broken.” and that’s kinda what growing is about.
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Do/did you ever want to "fit in"?
Yes I sure did. Drove me to drink. I stopped trying when I stopped drinking and holy shit life’s much improved!
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How do you clean your toys? Do you use a toy...
Caveat: I almost NEVER use insertables. I love my Wahl, and for that I pop off the attachment and scrub it with hot water and soap. My few, occasionally used insertables are glass, and again, I believe soap and water to be sufficient. I don’t share my toys, so that’s not an issue :-)
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Your favorite brand of razor for shaving below the...
I don’t. When I do, it is probably going to be someone else’s well-honed straight razor, and they’re gonna be doing the shaving.
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Would you ever pack up and move hundreds of miles...
Yeah. Have done. Might do it again soon, too.
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How do you define happiness? Sadness?
Happiness is being content with the moment you are in. Sadness is not being content with the moment you are in.
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Which comes first, your own happiness, or someone...
My own happiness is only secondary to the happiness of the person who would own me: because, in that case, their happiness *IS* mine.
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What do you think about this bento box?...
I wouldn’t know whether to eat it or offer it more food! *lol* But being it is a Ganesh Bento, it would be sacrilegious to NOT eat it!! :-)
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Do you have a favorite dessert? If so, what is it...
I think my overall fave desert would be a really well done Mango Sticky rice! :-)
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I saw your post on twitter about the racial slurs....
I don’t know why you’d be embarrassed and what you’re embarrassed about, Anonymous. But we are all responsible for our own emotions.
Interestingly, this “question” displays your ignorance of my background, my history, and myself. If you’d like to educate yourself, you can start with the “Fantasy” that was a substantial part of my winning my...
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If John Baku handed you full control of Fetlife...
I’d change the policy that only permits the removal of photos at the behest of the photographer, and make it incumbent on the poster to prove they have the right to post it. It is absurd that people can post literally hundreds of photos that aren’t theirs and nothing’s stopping them. I’d get a real, viable email system up in there. Managing it as it is is dreadful....
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What meal would you prepare if you wanted to...
Hm. Probably a cold seafood assortment to start, since I love the hands-on nature of eating stuff like oysters (Kumamoto are a fave) shrimp (sustainably farmed in Belize, of course) and (Dungeness & Blue) crab. Maybe next baby spinach salad with that hot bacon dressing that is so fucking good I can’t stand it. I need to find that recipe again…then fillet Mignon wrapped in...
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Was 2010 a good or bad year for you? Why? What are...
I don’t think of things in terms of “good” and “bad” but 2010 had many challenges and triumphs. I am hoping for health, for love, for connectedness and adventure, for surprises and fulfillment and personal peace in 2011.
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Which politician would you like to "do"?
Thomas Jefferson. I hear he had a thing for the sisters…
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Who would you like to find under your tree / whose...
*sigh* if there were a chance in hell that christmas morning would find me nicely boxed, bowed, wrapped and tagged for The Dominant Guy, I would consider believing in Santa ;-)
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What's your SSB? (secret single behaviour! - that...
Well if I *TELL* is isn’t a SECRET is it?
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Do you believe in Santa?
Having become recently educated about Sinterklaas (the OG Santa) and his slave sidekicks, Zwarte Piet? I’m inclined to give the whole Santa thing a miss.
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Dare to “Go there.” http://formspring.me/Mollena
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Can you dance?
Argh. I’m NOT the right person to ask that! *Objectively* speaking? I think so.
I took dance when I was younger. I enjoy casual dancing. Last year I was in a show that required some swing dance shit, and boy, was I having a hard time getting the bit down. The other actor I was working with was also having a tough time, and as the frustration built I became clumsier and clumsier, which...
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If your country outlawed kink (and found some way...
I would move. Life is complex enough without having to be an outlaw…I’m not that sort of rebel :-)
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stingy or thuddy?
Thuddy. I LOATHE stingy. It enrages me.
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If you could play with one well known kinkster who...
This is SOOOOO not fair! Shitloads of “well known” kinksters are my buds and will taunt me and feign deep emotional wounds if I don’t name ‘em!
OK, so I’ll pick someone I have NOT played with and try to make it more equitable.
Hm…
OK this isn’t any easier…I’ve played with some awesome peeps. Shite…
OK half an hour and a bunch of...
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What do you do when you're unhappy to make...
I listen to music that I know will cheer me up. I turn to my social media outlets, like Twitter , Facebook, FetLife and say “I’m feeling unhappy about ________” and listen to what pings back. I call or text a friend. I write about what I’m feeling. I take a hot shower or bath and imagine the worries being washed away. I have a small, special snack that I take my time...
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How has kink helped you heal?
By forcing me to be honest, to be open, to be proud, to make and keep friends, by teaching me how to fight fair, by breaking me apart, by giving me safe space, but helping me learn how to be tough, by opening me up to my own strength. By letting me be FULLY myself.
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What's the one "bad" thing about yourself that you...
That I am a recovering alcoholic. It keeps me focused on being alive, and gives me one solid attainable goal every day: stay sober.
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Your favorite kink?
Service.
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You have an unlimited line of credit at one store,...
Tiffany. Diamonds.
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in your opinion, is it weird to friend request...
No. You can NEVER know the future. Keep connections alive.
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If you could master one skill what would it be?
Classical singing :-)
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If you could go back in the past and create one...
The cellular phone.
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Would you ever let your partner receive pleasure...
*LOL* *coughhackwheeze*
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Your favorite part of the opposite genders body?
Well, I dunno that I think of gender as having “opposites?” but I’m going to assume your a binary sorta guy. So I’m going to say brains. Because that’s the truth. Second up is eyes. Third is forearms.
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Ladies: If your man does not climax when having...
Well, I can’t speak for ladies. I can speak for me. I used to think it was my issue, perhaps I wasn’t sexy enough. Then I grew up. Now, I wonder if they’re tired, or just don’t have it in ‘em, or maybe have a physical issue. If they’
re fine not orgasming, and everyone is feeling good about what happened, its all good.
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Do you keep secrets well?
Yes. Just not ones that belong solely to me.
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Would you ever consider a wild night with someone,...
Yes, if they were my owner or master. Absolutely. A wild *fling* with someone? No.
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Favorite type of footwear?
CROCS, BABY! Crocs and my Wescos. And Fluevogs. Comfortable is my favourite type.
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What is the one thing that turns you on the most...
Right now? Receiving a call from TheDominantGuy. Being able to listen to him is calming, energizing, soothing and blisteringly erotic simultaneously.
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Do you believe in fate?
On bad days.
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Your favorite holiday movie?
This is gonna sound weird to all by NYers. “Mighty Joe Young” and “King Kong” were always…ALWAYS aired on T-Day. Don’t ask me why. WPIX would show ‘em, and I loved that. Big monkeys still equal the start of the holiday season for me.
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listening to "I Will Survive - Cake [ Lyric]" →
Well, I’ll do it Cake style :-p