December 2009
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So Mollena, what weird foods have you eaten? ;)
@^$!*&^ copycat!!
I’m SUCH a picky freakin’ eater, I strenuously avoid most weirdness.
I ate a cockroach alive, once. well, kind of. it was in my Kool-Aid, I drank t caught it in my teeth, chomped it, and then spit it back out and lost my mind for a second.
I had roast goat prepared by some nomadic Moroccan...
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Dude. You only answered half that last question about rope. Hope to it. They wanted to know what it does for you.
My bad, my bad.
Rope bondage was a focus of my first formal BDSM relationship, as my Trainer was fairly well-known locally for his shibari work.
I initially wasn’t that much of a fan. And, since he also sold rope, I had to learn how to process raw hemp rope. ...
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What does rope do for you? What do you look for in a rope top?
No corpses or serious damage in their history.
The ability to play within their area of comfort and expertise.
Passion.
Skill.
The capacity to be in control of in touch with, and cognizant of the power of, their rope.
“The Look” when they observe me. Seeing them imagine how best to render me...
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Is there any specific kink or sex act that you just don’t do? Like, tried it, didn’t like it and/or have no interest in it? How come?
Things that I *HAVE* tried and didn’t like….hm. Usually, if I am doing something really tough, but it pleases my dominant, I’m all good.
The exception that I HAVE experienced is Vomiting.
I once had a dildo jammed...
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Wanna?
If asked nicely.
Or forced to.
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What’s the best interpretation of Lady Macbeth you’ve seen?
This is gonna sound insane but it was a teenage girl in a hip-hop production of the show called *shudder* “Mac B”
It was as grueling as you might think EXCEPT the kids were so fucking earnest, it really worked. The girl who played Lady Macbeth had this Lil Kim thing going on. Se was unabashedly...
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Do you sing?
This is one of those questions that is tough for me.
As a kid I sure did sing. I did plenty of commercial jingle shit, VO work, and sang on the soundtrack for the movie “The Wiz” (look me up in the IMdb if ya think I’m lyin!”)
Since then, I have been told by some I’m a very mediocre singer. As these were people I respected, it hurt...
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Lady Macbeth? Really? That is so interesting. I wouldn’t mind playing her either. The other two are common, but Macbeth is cursed so you don’t hear it as often. I have new respect for you dear person I’ve never met :)
A few years back I did a “General Audition” for Bat Area theaters. Dozens of dozens of casting directors and theater companies represented, and I...
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When a relationship ends, what is the best approach for moving on and regaining self, things that you lost while in that relationship?
This is so mutable.
(Which is OK. Gemini’s a mutable sign. I’m good)
The circumstances of the relationship have EVERYTHING to do with the breakup.
* How long was the relationship?
* How amicable was the breakup?
* How was the...
What song was #1 the day you were born?
missbhavens:
stevenebowman:
adamwhite:
Mine was “I Love Rock’n’Roll” by Joan Jett & the Blackhearts, and I’m entirely ok with that. You find find your answer via Billboard’s stats.
The Bee Gees Tragedy. My Mom loves the Bee Gees so I guess that’s explained…
Ooof. Mine was “Sugar, Sugar” by The Archies. They’re not even a real band.
Ouch.
June 20th, 1969?
Get Back by The...
Dear society...
ilovefat:
bananaberger:
I hate that you make me hate myself.
I am a big girl. Not like a BIG BIG girl but I am a big girl. I have always been a big girl. And I try really hard to lose weight but I’m always unsuccessful. And for that I hate myself, and I hate my body.
I never went to prom or homecoming in high school. Not because I didn’t have dates, because I always bought a dress that was...
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What stage role have you always wanted to play but haven’t yet?
Toss up between Medea, Lady Macbeth and Katerina.
All woefully misunderstood, IMO, and really powerful women who take wildly different approaches to dealing with life’s injustices.
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You may have answered this, but I’m new to your blog and haven’t read everything yet. You mentioned staying sober as a goal. How long have you been sober for?
I never mind answering it! Because every day is a new day :-D
SO far, I’ve been sober for 1020 days. That’s 2.79 years. My sobriety tattoo is here:...
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This is the time of year I set goals for myself. Can you share one personal and one professional goal you have for yourself in the coming year?
Personal: Stay Sober.
Professional: Gt that *&^%$ Pitch and pilot written and grt my ass down to LA and out to NY to pitch my shit to some network Exec people.
I need to be famous already.
This shit is getting old.
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in your response to vulnerability, you touched on your passion and intensity being off-putting to a number of dominants. i too have this experience. my guess is because my response is such, they dont feel in control — i dunno honestly.
whats a realistic way to ‘resolve’ or approach this? its not very workable to wait & hope endless for someone with...
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Have you ever seriously regretted baring your soul publicly, and if so did you consider giving it up?
I haven’t regretted it, no.
I have wished that there wasn’t a need for it, I have wished I didn’t feel compelled to.
But the net result of my taking the risk abnd feeling uncomfortable is that other people have found their way to let themselves feel some...
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If my lifelong happiness were at stake, would you kill a mime? How would you do it?
*Lifelong* happiness?
OK, yeah.
I’d put them in an invisible box…and watch it get smaller and smaller until they were crushed into whitefaced goo.
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Why are you so freaking awesome?
*crazymad blushing*
Am I? Shit. I wish I could feel that way!
I would avoid answering this post, dudette, but for the fact that I pledged to respond to everything people posted.
Um…I don’t often feel awesome. I am feeling particularly *NOT* awesome this week, in fact.
SO I am going to infer, from the tone of this post, *you*...
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When do you feel the most vulnerable?
I have a split answer on this.
Shocking, I know.
I feel painfully vulnerable when I post my tough inside personal emotional shit to my blog. I’m always afraid of people reacting badly, because I’ve had some grueling experiences with this. I’m still gun shy.
I feel highly vulnerable when I submit to someone in the...
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What, if any, winter holidays do you celebrate?
Ooo interesting…
I had to think about this because my recent discomfort with Thanksgiving has pretty much eroded the last “Holiday” I grew up celebrating.
I do celebrate Halloween, because I love it :-) I’m not sure how much of a “holiday” it is, however…and I like New Years for its...
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Glad I found this… My biggest question ever, what is the best way to approach the STD screening question with new poly partners without making an awkward situation or even worse just burning a bridge?
I’m a HUGE FAN of directness. And if you are doing poly, I suggest that Directness and relinquishing a fear of “awkwardness” when it comes to matters of...
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Do you ever question someone else’s identity as a submissive? Have you ever thought “that one isn’t REALLY a sub” or something similar?
Not usually. I look at it like I look at sexual and gender identity. People get to make that call.
HOWEVER.
I have a big fat double standard when it comes to my assessments when it comes to bad behaviours. If I see,...
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What has been your favorite acting role ever?
Oy that is tough!!
I *LOVED* Playing Titania in “Midsummer Night’s Dream” and also loved my devestating one-scene turnas Helen of Troy in “Trojan Women” by Charles Mee.
But the show I recently closed, that or Mae Roslyn in “Drip” was really really amazing. Firstly, it was a departure from...
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Have you always worn your hair in a natural style? If not, what made you decide to go natural?
I’ve run the gamut. Extensions, pressed, relaxed, dreads..this blog post has a pretty good spread and represents the range pretty well http://www.mollena.com/2009/06/40-up/
I got tired of the expense, time and energy of maintaining these other styles, and my hear is superangry...
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What is your definition of ‘owned’ in a BDSM context?
Within the context of a m/s (master / slave) relationship, “ownership” connotes a submission of control over particular or total aspects of the human property’s life to the owner. I consider this to be flexible as per preferences and feasibility and how this is negotiated is up to the people...
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What do you make of a guy who’s generally pretty dominant, but really gets off on licking ass? This is really only something TRUE DOMINATE MASTERS would think is odd, right?
Dominants do what the fuck they want to do. There is no “act” that makes anyone more or less dominant. Now a SADIST would lick the ass of someone who hated it and thought it was the squickiest thing in the...
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My brain needs a pressyre valve release, so please ask me anything http://formspring.me/Mollena
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You’ve already answered a question about one tattoo, do you have any others?
I have an ankh on my ankle (say that shit 10x fast. Go ahead. I’ll wait.) that was my 1st tattoo. I’d wanted it since I was a kid, but tattoo parlors in NYC were still illegal when I was there so I had to wait. When I moved to LA I finally got it.
My next tattoo was the USDA...
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If we were going out to dinner to your most favorite restaurant, where would we be eating tonight? Do you know what you’d be ordering?
Oh shit you done fucked up now!
It would either be Ruth’s Chris or Harris’. Both steakhouses. I adore Good Meat.
I’d probably want a Caesar, extra dressing (the REAL shit. I want raw motherfucking eggs and pulverized...
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How old were you your first time and what has happened to your first partner since then?
I am gonna assume this is a “first time I had sex” question.
I was 15 and a half. My first boyfriend was a strictly raised Catholic and was “saving himself for marriage.” I’d been waiting to fuck since I’d first figured out “how is babby...
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How would you describe Subspace to someone that has never been there?
For me subspace varies according to the type of play I’ve done. Generally I’d compare it to the sensation of being disoriented on some type of mind-altering substance. It can feel, very much, like alcohol intoxication, up to and including difficulty speaking and walking.
Sometimes it is simple as...
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Axe me anyfink http://formspring.me/Mollena
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If you could have a day to spend with one person, alive or dead, famous or infamous, who would it be?
Josephine Baker. To this day, her achievements in performance, the US civil rights struggle, advocacy of children, the French resistance in WWII, integrating film and performance venues is fucking staggering.
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Being you are more of a mono than poly person, how would you reconcile a poly-ish person trying mono but not having their partner (who is mono) meet all their sexual needs?
I’m of this rather freakish split mindset. This might not make sense.
I don’t know that we are “entitled” to have *ALL* of our “needs” met. I think we look at lost of...